How to handle Criticism

The first reaction for many of us is to defend ourselves, or worse lash back at the person.  While criticism can be taken as hurtful and demoralising, it can also be viewed in a positive way. It is honesty and it can spur us to do better. Show your true talent while revealing your toughness by controlling the immediate challenge.

Criticism means constructive advice pointing out your faults.
You should be polite with people so that they will not use harsh words all the time.
If the criticism is faulty, ignore what has been said or contact the person who sent the criticism. Criticism usually represents an opportunity to make improvements. Sure, there are some people who take a sadistic pleasure in being nasty, but most criticism is genuinely intended to be constructive. Fighting back, arguing or being disrespectful in the face of constructive criticism serve no purpose except to escalate what may be a minor correction into a major issue. Willingness to accept constructive criticism and act upon it is a sign of maturity and professionalism.

It is very important that you know that you cannot escape criticism. The more success you will find the harsher will be the criticism. Take a look at all the famous people; there are millions who criticize them. They always take it in good spirit and maybe that's why they are successful. No matter what you do there will always be people who will praise as well as criticize you. Nothing is perfect.

Source:

http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Criticism

http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_100/111_success.html#ixzz2cV0Phrr4

 

 



This video is about online pr and how it requires  different approach which is to achieve influence rather than just building relationships with journalist.

How to build your Online Identity

social network tools

online PR involves activities geared towards influencing media, communities and audiences that exist solely on the Internet using online channels. That includes search engines, blogs, news search, forums, discussion threads, social networks and other online communication tools. Brand reputation monitoring and management is also a focus area for online PR.

The easiest way to build your online identity is to attach your real name and a link to your web site to the things you're  really passionate about.  Join discussion forums related to your profession and hobbies in order to know how to improve your services or product that the organization offers.

Digital Identity

Identity management is an undertaking for which there are few sins. One of the minor sins is being annoying in the promotion of your site nobody wants their page to be flooded with links, but the biggest sin, of identity management is silence.
If someone looks for you online and cannot find you at all, they might assume that you don't have an online presence or that they're looking in the wrong place. If they look for you and find evidence of you all over the web but nothing from the current presidential administration, you're sending a big message. The message that you're old news, you don't keep up on what's going on, and there has to be someone out there more interesting and relevant  you.
Get noticed,The idea of generating any piece of content is to get noticed.  make sure that people don’t just read your single piece then move on to something else. Your content should only be the teaser. It should act as a doorway into the real content.
Attracting trafic to your blog is not enough, one needs to post relavant matters that will get people to engage and always be interested in what you have to say.

Image: Google pictures
Source:http://www.online-pr.com/
 

Men need to call each other to ORDER!!!

 

 

UCT Rape Campaign Poster

 



Action against rape is only after the fact. How do we stop the entitlement to women’s bodies?

Just because you paid lobola doesn’t mean you can take whenever you want. She is not your object. Lobola is a ritual, not a transaction.

Mothers can’t even allow their Daughters to go for “sleep overs” anymore. Because they don’t know what kind of a dirty uncle is lurking.

There are also clean polished rapists, the ones you meet at a club and they get you drunk and take advantage of you. Men need to call each other to order.

Woman don’t be ashamed that you were raped, its men who should be ashamed of being rapists. You did nothing wrong.

Men how did you turn from people we love to people that rape us?

Men what made you so violent and hatefully aggressive?

MEN YOU NEED TO CALL EACH OTHER TO OREDER - THIS HAS GONE TOO FAR!!!!!!!




image: UCT Rape campaing Poster

Xhosa Clan names (Iziduko)

I am Xhosa but I have always wondered what the fuss about clan names is and why are they important?

Luckily for me I saw information on XhosaCulture.co.za and it has helped me to understand the importance of our clan names.

Xhosa Clan names (isiduko) are family names considered more important than surnames amongst Xhosa people. Mentioning the clan name of someone you want to thank is the highest form respect and it is considered polite to enquire after someone’s clan name when you meet them.When a woman marries she takes her husband’s surname but she keeps her clan name adding the prefix Ma to it. A man and a woman with the same clan name they cannot marry for they are considered related.

Not all Xhosa speaking people belong to the amaXhosa nation whose rulership descends from AmaTshawe also known as the Gcaleka and Rharhabe rulership. Some people make the mistake of saying all Xhosa speaking people are uMzi ka Phalo (the house of Phalo).

 I am Xhosa speaking and I always fail to explain why I am not Xhosa for I do not fall under the House of Phalo,but the house of AmamFengu I hope this will shed some light.

I am Xhosa speaking and I always fail to explain why I am not Xhosa for I do not fall under the House of Phalo. I belong to the house of Amafengu.

AmaMfengu are a Bantu people; originally closely related to the Zulu people, but now often considered to have assimilated to the Xhosa people whose language they now speak. Historically they achieved considerable renown for their military ability in the frontier wars.

They were previously known in English as the “Fingo” people, and they gave their name to the district of Fingoland (Mfenguland), the South West portion of the Transkei division, in the Cape Province.  The Fengu had no paramount-chief as other tribes did, but the Cape Commander Veldman Bikitsha was a Fengu, and held authority over the Fengu’s military capacity.

 Today virtually all the Fingo people have intermarried with other ethnic groups particularly with the Xhosa and Zulu. Many are now often considered – especially by outsiders – to be ethnically Xhosa and others Zulu, because of their common language and some similar customs. A considerable number have a mixed racial background, especially in and around the Cape provinces.

Source:http://xhosaculture.co.za/history/amamfengu/

Pictures: www.ezakwantu.com

Everyday I'm shuffling!!!

President Zuma axed Tokyo Sexwale at Cabinet reshuffle.

 

 

Zuma axed three of his ministers in a Cabinet reshuffle on Tuesday 09 July 2013. This is his fourth reshuffle since he has been in office. Human Settlements Minister Tokyo Sexwale and embattled Communications Minister Dina Pule received the boot on Tuesday. It Baffles me as a citizen why these two ministers received the boot and Angie Motshekga is safe. Then again it hits me that Mr President has her back, it was reported by the SABC news that  Jacob Zuma once defended the Basic Education Minister Angie Motshekga.

According to the SABC, Zuma said that Motshekga is working hard to turn around the country’s under-performing education system.I am very happy with her job.

Surely Mr President was not happy when Sexwale campaigned against his re-election as African National Congress leader at the ruling party’s national elective conference in December 2011.

Could this be the reason why he is exed?



Source: http://www.sabreakingnews.co.za
image credit: http://www.bdlive.co.za





 

Rape in Cyberspace

New Media may be making our lives easier, quicker and more convenient but at what cost? The emergence of virtual worlds online has opened up debate about the regulation and policing of the internet. Julian Dibbell’s (1993) A Rape in Cyberspace is one example of the lack of regulation and its consequences.
 Cyber Rape is the act of feeling uncomfortable or mentally abused in a sexual or non-sexual manner via the internet or text.

People on cyber space may attack your avatar and  make you feel uncomfortable and traumatised, when such feelings start to arise that is when you should know that it is a form of harrasment.

 People may make comments such as "Nice round breasts, some sweet as melon jugs, they are revealed via a low cutshirt. Jumblies should always be pointed out to a friend when visible."

No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable, whether online or personally. we as cyber users need to be aware of such acts and be able to protect ourselves from such as it is our right to be safe on these platforms.

Source: http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/cyber%20rape